How anxiety fools us and how we take control

This post makes you realize why anxiety keeps coming back.

Don’t worry, it got me too.

I never knew what anxiety was.
When it hit me, it hit me.
Like a Mack truck.

Out of the blue…
So out of the blue that I thought I was just “the chosen one.”
The one anxiety decided to pick on, just because.

And at the time, I had no idea what it was… or why it was happening.
I actually thought I was having a heart attack… at 19.

It just happened.
And when it did…
It scarred me,
For years.
High chances are it got you too.

This post makes you realize why anxiety keeps coming back.

How anxiety fools us and how we take control

I am not a therapist/counselor & this post may contain affiliate links. 

How has anxiety fooled us?

You’re fooled into thinking something terrible is going to happen.
So when we’re afraid, we immediately think danger.
Our natural response is to do one of three things…

  1. Fight
  2. Flight
  3. Freeze

We’ll fight if it’s weaker than us.
We’ll run if it’s slower than us.
Or we’ll freeze and pray like hell.

That’s just what we do.

That’s just how all of this works.

We treat the unpleasantness of anxiety and treat it like danger.

Why do we keep letting it fool us?

Why don’t we see the pattern?

The pattern of:

  1. Coming
  2. Scaring the crap out of us
  3. Leaving

Why don’t we see that we’re okay?
Why do we keep telling the anxiety to control us?
Why do we run from our fears?

We’re protecting ourselves.

More importantly, we are enabling.
We are adding salt to our wounds, gasoline to our fires..
Your symptoms of anxiety is the salt, the gasoline.

By being afraid, you are feeding the fire and burning your wounds.
We’re convincing ourselves that our methods of madness are working.
By avoiding our fears, we are better.

My worst fear was driving and I seriously convinced myself that by no longer driving, my anxiety was cured.

By not giving that speech, not taking the elevator or not confronting our everyday worries, we are helping ourselves.
We’re telling the anxiety to control us.

Related Posts: 6 Steps to Surviving a Panic Attack Comfortably

How do we take control?

You may have heard, “if you’re afraid of something, do it more.”
Which is true.
Face your fears.

But, the most important part is to do this effectively.

You take anxiety by the hand and say, “stay awhile.”
You tell anxiety, “I’m not afraid of you.”
You’re going to grab anxiety by the shirt and say, “have a seat.”

Let the anxiety flow through your body.
Let it leave first.

Don’t run,
Don’t fight,
And don’t freeze.

Why is it important for us to take control?

It’s important to take control because if we don’t we will live in fear.
We will always wonder when/if it’s coming back.
Which in return will create a domino effect…

After the first time I experienced anxiety (panic)… it came back every day forever…
Until I took control.
It was like clockwork, around the same time every day…
Because I was anticipating it.

How anxiety fooled us, and how can we take control?

Anxiety fools us because it makes us think something is terribly wrong when it is just our natural response to protect ourselves.

We take control by not being afraid.

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Again, I am not a therapist/counselor, I got my knowledge from here.

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Kirsten is a wife and a mother. She has 2 babies, one human and one fur. She loves to help people overcome anxiety because she has suffered with it for years.

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